I came across a website, this morning, it's called Love Sick Fools, the title got me thinking how many times in my life, have I become a fool in love. How about you, have you been there too? One day we're perfectly fuctioning human beings. Then wham!! along comes the man, or woman who knocks you off your feet, and you're head over heels,and crazy in love. Crazy being the operative word, your world revolves around them, and you forget normal. You're on cloud nine and life is amazing, you could conquer the world. Then the spark starts to fizzle out, the cloud dissapates under you, and bang!! you come crashing down to earth, left with nothing more than a broken heart.
I have asked myself over and over, "why am I the one, who bends over backwards to keep the relationship together, but amthe one who ends up hurt and rejected?" Well, for me I think it was the need for someone else to love me, was more important than the need to love myself. Even my present relationship has suffered because of this. I thought I needed a man's love to make me happy and complete. I'd over-looked the one thing that could remedy this, and it was staring at me in mirror everyday. I don't even know how it happened, but one day I told myself "I don't need a man to make me happy."
I realised I had me, and all the good things in my life, and that was enough to make me complete. I didn't give up on men, I'm still with my partner, it's now 14 years, but I'm becoming happier and more content, because I now realise, the worlds not going to end if he's not in my life. Yes I'd be devastated if I lost him, I'm in love with him, but now I know I could move on. I guess we've all heard, the experts say you can't love someone else if you're incapable of loving yourself. I believe it's true, our partners and our family are very important to us, but just because we have a partner, it doesn't mean we have to lose ourselves.
I have asked myself over and over, "why am I the one, who bends over backwards to keep the relationship together, but amthe one who ends up hurt and rejected?" Well, for me I think it was the need for someone else to love me, was more important than the need to love myself. Even my present relationship has suffered because of this. I thought I needed a man's love to make me happy and complete. I'd over-looked the one thing that could remedy this, and it was staring at me in mirror everyday. I don't even know how it happened, but one day I told myself "I don't need a man to make me happy."
I realised I had me, and all the good things in my life, and that was enough to make me complete. I didn't give up on men, I'm still with my partner, it's now 14 years, but I'm becoming happier and more content, because I now realise, the worlds not going to end if he's not in my life. Yes I'd be devastated if I lost him, I'm in love with him, but now I know I could move on. I guess we've all heard, the experts say you can't love someone else if you're incapable of loving yourself. I believe it's true, our partners and our family are very important to us, but just because we have a partner, it doesn't mean we have to lose ourselves.
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